tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2578728360904637566.post7709462202154141532..comments2024-01-11T03:09:43.960-08:00Comments on The Hills Are Burning: "Sexual Harassment in the TV Industry (When You're a Nobody.)"A.J.http://www.blogger.com/profile/06280771470428710391noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2578728360904637566.post-64307314630291971712016-10-13T19:13:05.605-07:002016-10-13T19:13:05.605-07:00Audrey - Wow, thanks for taking the time to read m...Audrey - Wow, thanks for taking the time to read my piece and comment. I was under the impression that no one came forward to testify on your behalf so I'm pleased to hear that you were working with at least one person of character. However, it is shitty that they said otherwise. Either way, I'm glad you reported it and have been able to find work in another field, and hopefully, with less douchey people.<br /><br />Jenerator - I agree, it's hard to balance between bantering with your colleagues because you're "one of the boys" and what an inappropriate comment is. And it's also hard to approach a colleague/friend about something they said that made you uncomfortable, but yet try to preserve that easy-going relationship you have. <br /><br />I'm with ya on that last part, though I like to think that the pool of people I'm working with now know better than to make idiotic comments to begin with (although once in a while, I'm sadly proven wrong).<br /><br />...And I'm <i>still</i> waiting for the day I can <a href="http://thehillsareburning.blogspot.com/2012/04/i-cannot-wait.html" rel="nofollow">eat a banana on set</a>.A.J.https://www.blogger.com/profile/06280771470428710391noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2578728360904637566.post-25013517367436286042016-10-13T03:13:29.811-07:002016-10-13T03:13:29.811-07:00It's so difficult to know how to deal with the...It's so difficult to know how to deal with the sexist and inappropriate comments (it would be nice to be able to eat a freakin banana on set without commentary..). My approach now is to confront them there and then and tell them they're out of line. If any physical or continuing verbal harassment were to happen I hope I'd have the courage to make an official complaint. Some comments I've heard would've gotten the guys sacked on a "normal" job. But it's really hard when some of those comments come from people you like and who are your friends. There is a bit of expectation to put up with some of the banter when you're "one of the boys", but a line needs to be drawn somewhere.<br /><br />I'd like to think if I filed a complaint now if something happened I'm established enough for it not to make a difference but in the beginning that would've certainly been a death sentence to my career. Kudos to you Audrey indeed for standing up for yourself and for the rest of us. Jeneratornoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2578728360904637566.post-66415320540982174302016-10-10T10:21:29.783-07:002016-10-10T10:21:29.783-07:00Thanks for the think-piece. Just wanted to mention...Thanks for the think-piece. Just wanted to mention a couple things that seem to have been missed.<br /><br />1. I listed over a dozen witnesses who heard the walkie-talkie comment and many others. The company claimed to be unable to find a single person to testify on my behalf, however the person who warned me, I "should always have a chip on my shoulder because this business is extremely sexist" says he most certainly did speak on my behalf. He left a the following comment on my Facebook wall, attached to my original post: <br /><br />"I received a call not long after I left, and discussed the situation with a female producer. I gave her all the information I had, totally backing up your side. That was the last I heard of it. For those reading this story, I verify the inappropriate events she talks about. The guy was completely out of line, especially as a supervisor. I found him mentally unstable also. He tried to intimidate me, Good luck to anyone trying that, then ended up crying (literally) about his marital situation. Kudos to you Audrey for having the strength and courage to stand up for yourself."<br /><br />2. I reported it because I was already gone. Every day that passed without being called back to work, I got more frustrated. He wasn't bringing me back, ever since the "special job in the truck" moment, when he stopped seeing me as a fun object of entertainment. The complaint came after several weeks passing with no work. I felt like there was nothing to lose, and I wouldn't be doing any favors by going away quietly.<br /><br />3. You're right - I was naive. (Although I don't think I was "too naive to handle it" because I handled it, regardless.) True, I didn't know ANYTHING about rigging electric in the beginning. But since this all happened, I've crossed over to working with Local 28 (stagehands union). So I've learned a LOT in the last five years. And I'm happy to report, work has been plenty.Audrey Rosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17459249718443491753noreply@blogger.com